I am a father to the three young ladies above. They are amazing gifts from the Lord, all in their own unique skin!
As a Father, our duty is an ever-present one, and it doesn’t get easier as they get older. Our duty as a father goes above and beyond the Pastor, Protector, and Provider calling, it requires us to be present in the ups and downs, it requires us to treat our wives well, it requires us to bring the love of Christ into our homes daily, and to be a role model of how men should treat women.
If we look at it as a job though, we will miss all it has for us. This is a gift, a privilege to father these young ladies into adulthood!
Fathers are an important cornerstone in a daughter’s life. Study upon study shows this is a need across the world. Fathers need to stay. A study found that girls whose fathers are out of the picture before the age of 6 were about five times more likely to end up pregnant as teenagers than their peers raised with their fathers at home.
Five times more likely? Isn’t that enough to make you fight for your daughter?
Even our brains function differently with our daughters than our sons.
The order, set out by God and the science that backs it, states it pretty clearly. The family unit and the duty of the father in the home makes a HUGE difference.
To all of you Fathers out there these are 5 Things All Dads Of Daughters Should Know.
Represent Christ To Her.
As men, we are called to be Christ to our family. 1 Corinthians 11:3 is pretty clear in saying… “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.” If we are to be the head of our wives, then it’s the same for our daughters and sons.
We need to show our daughters who Christ is by living the way Christ would for our family. Praying before bed, at the dinner table, before big events in the girl’s lives, and even reading the Bible before bed at night, shows them Christ through you.
Christ lives within us, make sure He is seen by your daughters!
She’s Watching How You Treat Her Mother.
Our children see a lot more than we give them credit for. They may be quiet but they see how we men treat our wives. The way we interact with them, what we feel is important, how we pray with them or the ways we conduct ourselves differently when they are not around.
We should be intentional with our wives. Praying should be a daily activity, dating should be a priority, and loving your wife as Christ did the church is a must.
They are watching!
We must be there for her. It really is this simple.
We need to show up to her games, to her practices, her big performance, no matter how small they are, they mean the world to her. We must be present as well, don’t show up and play on your phone, or chat with the other dads. This is your daughters time to shine and look to you for approval and affirmation, make sure you are present to give her what she needs.
We must be present as well, don’t show up and play on your phone, or chat with the other dads. This is your daughters time to shine and look to you for approval and affirmation, make sure you are present to give her what she needs.
We must be able to give her the thumbs up or the big smile as she looks to us. She always looks to us first! Be ready for it.
This is hard for me, a father to three ladies, but is something I aim to do at least once a month per child. They need one on one time, they need us to be present with them without any other distractions.
From taking them to breakfast on their birthdays to walks in the park to one on one trips to the falls to build forts, they need us to invest time in them just as you do (or should be) with your wife. We need to date our daughters.
We all dated our wives, so this should be something that is special for our daughters to share with us as well. Aim to make this time special for each child. Put your phone away, bring a game, or a book to read together. The options are endless.
We must be present.
Model How Other Men Should Treat Her.
From opening doors to driving safely. To obeying and respecting authority to being constant in their lives, we need to model how men should treat and behave around women.
This is an intentional act that we must perfect.
Have you ever thought about how you want a young man to approach your daughter, to treat her, what you will you say that day when he comes to pick her up? If we haven’t modeled something for our daughters to gauge a suitor by, we will NOT be happy when he shows up asking to take our daughters out.
Are we modeling what you want our daughters to look for in a man? If not, we better get cracking!
We must be intentional
So What Now!?!
These are ongoing, ever-changing tasks that we as men need to constantly reassess for the good of our families, especially our daughters.
We need to be intentional in loving them well. We need to be the men God created us to be so they can be the women God has intended them to be.
Love your daughters well!
Also published on Medium.